Thanksgiving dinner is about so much more than the turkey.
Getting together — and cooking — with loved ones can be tricky, even if it’s not the biggest food holiday of the year. My family members here in Austin can’t seem to put a Thanksgiving meal on the table without a ridiculous amount of pressure to get the dishes exactly as they were last year. And the year before. And the year before that. These high expectations end up pulling the worst out of people. (I actually overheard one family member yelling, “What are you, stupid?” to a younger one during the height of this year’s chaos.)
But this year, the women who usually prepare the meal had one less dish to prepare: A friend of my uncle’s offered to fry the birds in giant vats of oil outside. As soon as the cooking left the kitchen, men were in charge. (Beers in hand, they might as well have been grilling burgers.) My other uncle, who didn’t have much to do with cooking the bird in the first place, was once again the male given the ceremonial task of carving the bird just before service.
I know we’re probably all turkey’d out already, but while the holiday is fresh in your mind, I want to know more about how gender plays (or has played) into your Thanksgiving.
Click here to take a quick survey to tell me who cooked your Thanksgiving turkey this year, and leave a comment about how your family (or friends, neighbors or whomever you share the day with) traditionally splits the tasks of the day.
Are women still doing the heavy lifting? Are men who don’t cook tasked by women to do their share by washing dishes? How many women were in charge of frying turkeys this year?