If you are at all interested in gender and sexuality — and, really, who isn’t — by now you’ve probably seen “The Kids Are All Right,” one of my favorite movies of 2010.

Annette Bening was nominated for an Oscar for her role as Nic, head of a pretty average household, except that she and her partner Jules, played by Julianne Moore, each had a child using sperm from the same donor.

When the donor comes back in the picture, things in their very picture perfect life get confusing.

The donor, played by Mark Ruffalo, happens to own a restaurant and is very into this eat local thing. His interest in sustainable agriculture — and by extension, Jules’ interest in him, even though Nic doesn’t know it yet — becomes the subject of her rant against heirloom tomatoes.

The New York Times has a really nice blog post about the scene that I wanted to pass along here.

Oh, and watch the movie if you haven’t already. It’s fantastic.